5-16-15 Post: Staying Positive

Question/Comment: I feel like I am surrounded by people forming clicks based on their prejudices. I don’t like to hear gossip; it seems to always have a victim and be designed to make to the gossipers feel important or superior. How can anyone stay on a positive path in such an atmosphere?

Response: For each of us, our current situation is a reflection of our past. This is not a new idea. There are many great teachers providing this same information. See the links on my blog page.  If you are drawing negativity to you, it is time to change your thinking, the things you picture, the things you daydream about. Picture the kind of people you want to attract to you; imagine what you will talk about; what activities you will do together. What you focus on now, will be what you attract to yourself.

If you continue to focus on people you do not want in your life, you will be stuck with them. If you focus on being in situations you don’t like, you will get more of those. A possible path for you to take is to ask yourself how you would feel if all the disagreeable people were suddenly to disappear from your life? Are you afraid to let go of what you currently have because it is the known? Are you afraid of what you could draw to you because it is the unknown? 

You are correct that gossip always targets at least one person as a victim and only has one purpose and that is to make the gossipers feel good about themselves. In this sense gossip is very similar to sarcasm and teasing.  There is no positive intent and they are all passive aggressive means of causing harm. It is important that you do not allow the negative energy to permeate your energy field. Surround yourself with positive influences from books, music, videos, chat rooms and so on as much as possible. When you can find a positive person, cultivate a friendship.