8-22-15 Post: What If You Could Fly

Question/comment: I keep hearing “think outside the box.” People keep trying to get me to think differently, to see things from a different point of view. But, I don’t see how that is possible. I wouldn’t be me if I thought like somebody else does. I would be a carbon copy of that person.

Response: What if we could fly? How would you see the world differently? Seriously, just imagine for a minute that you could see the world from fifty or sixty feet off the ground. What would that look like? How would it feel to be so light and have the air flow past your skin as you fly? What would it be like to see people walking down the street below? Can you imagine automobiles on the street, or seeing roof tops? In imagining what it would be like if you could fly, you have already begun to see things differently. 

The more you practice imagining different experiences, the easier it becomes. When you imagined what things would look like from fifty or sixty feet above the ground, did you cease to exist or are you still here reading this post? You still you. When did the exercise, you probably did change a little. It would have caused to be more of who you are. It gave you a stronger sense of self. Who you are has increased just a little. 

Your fears of losing yourself or your sense of self need to be gently, slowly addressed so that you can be more flexible. Your personality will not break or be destroyed if you relax and try to see things from a different perspective. It may be a good idea to seek professional help in overcoming your fears.

 8-15-15 Post: Who’s In Charge?

Question/comment: I feel like there is no time for me because I have so many things that I to do and so many people to spend time with.

Response: Who sets your schedule? Maybe it’s time to look at which activites are most important. Are there somethings you do that don’t really benefit you and you dont even really like doing them? Are these things necessary or is someone depending on you?  If others need you, can anyone else do the activity or at least help you do it? Can you eliminate some of the activities?

Also, can you consolidate socializing engagements? Which of your friends can mix together pleasurably? So, for example, can you have lunch with two or three friends at the same time instead of lunching with each of them separately?

It is very important to have time for rest, creative activities, being alone, and reading; sometimes you need to be able to do nothing. One of the most important things we do in life is to just stop and be. Just be.

Maybe it is time to start asking yourself, “What do I need? What do I want? How do I want to use my time and energy? How can I begin to provide these things for myself? 

The underpinnings for all of this is self love, self respect and self care. What do you believe you deserve? Change often takes courage and the will to succeed. It can be done and with the best interest of all concerned in mind.

8-6-15 Post: Adversity

Question/Response: I find myself in very difficult times financially. I don’t know how I got here and I keep beating myself up over being a failure.

Response: Kicking yourself will not help. This is the time to love yourself the most. While learning from your past actions and choices is important, chastising yourself for so called mistakes is a waste of time. Any negativity you feel toward yourself and your situation will only distract you from making positive changes.  

Look for solutions and helpful people. Let go of what you can and build where you can. Imagine the results you want and how help is going to come to you. Take help where it is offered and love yourself enough to ask for help. Take note of who can help you in what ways and then ask for and or accept that help.

Loving yourself is primary. Valuing and appreciating all of your accomplishments, all that you have given to others and your own uniqueness will make you feel good about yourself. Then you can let your creativity soar. This is the time to plan and begin new projects. Having lost what was makes room for what will be. 

How you define your situation is very important. See this in a positive light and nurture yourself on your new path. Let go of resistance and ask how you may love yourself to your next success.

Say things to yourself like:
“I love you and I will take good care of you.” 
“I will take care of you; I have never failed you yet and I ‘m not going to start now.”

Ask yourself, “What do you need? How can I help you right now?” 

There has never been a successful person who did not have some failures and some adversity along the way. Every successful person has accepted help from others. Don’t let pride get in your way. How you handle your current situation is the test. Will you love yourself through it? Will you accept love and assistance from others?