10-15-15 Post: You are what you believe you are.

Question/Comment: Is it true that I am a magnet for what I think, say and believe? Have I really brought my current circumstances to myself? Can I really intentionally make changes to my self and my life?

Response: Why not conduct an experiment to answer these questions for yourself? Choose a particular situation, condition or relationship and decide how you want it to be different. Then create at least ten affirmations stating the situation, condition or relationship the way you want it to be. Take time several times a day to say these affirmations to yourself while looking in the mirror. 

Also write or type these affirmations at least ten times at least twice a day. At least three times per day allow yourself at least ten minutes to imagine your future when your desired changes are a fact. Really give this experiment honest effort and don’t sabotage yourself. Create a schedule for yourself to allow time and space for the exercises.

Let the results of your effort take shape without trying to control the process or the outcome. Really put your time and energy into this experiment and expect to be delighted with the results. Then let me know what happens.

10-3-15 Post: Can I really recreate my life and have or be what ever I choose?

Question/comment: I really want to believe that I can change my life and move in directions of my choosing. I don’t like the thought of being a victim to my circumstances. Is it really possible to make grand, sweeping changes?

Response: Changing in the direction that your inner being directs is absolutely possible.   Making grand, sweeping changes might come in small incremental steps. Will I walk out of my house today, hop into the cockpit of a jet and pilot it? No. If I want to learn to pilot an aircraft, can I accomplish that? Yes.

Everything begins with the first step which is usually listening quietly to our innermost leadings. By knowing yourself, noticing to what makes your heart sing and having the courage to take a beginning step followed by the next step and so on, an end goal will be accomplished. The goal itself may change along the way and there may be obstacles to overcome and learn from along the path.

Have you ever noticed after accomplishing something that you believed was for a specific purpose, then with the accomplishment under your bet, you went in a different direction with it? Going with the flow is important. Flexibility in life will keep you and your life dynamic and enjoyable. We often only see a portion of the whole picture and have to be willing to change directions and intentions as needed. 

The short answer is yes you can follow you inner leadings and make changes accordingly. Just don’t make the results of those new changes into your new should and have to.

9-18-15 Post: Procrastination

Question/Comment: I tend to get distracted and not get my work done. It is very frustrating.

Response: There can be many reasons for distraction such as avoidance behavior, need to gather more information, difficulty in focusing, lack of energy or preoccupation with something else. Of course, there can be many more reasons. Is the work something you really don’t want to do? If so, can you assign the task to someone else or hire someone to do it for you?

Is your work something you enjoy? If not what can you do to change that? Begin to ask yourself, what really excites you in life and make a list of these things.  Then as you look at that list you can ask yourself how you can make more time for those things and how you can begin to earn money doing them.  

If you are having difficulty focusing, what can you do to lessen the distractions. If you can turn off televisions, radios and other entertainment devices. Move to a quiet area or turn to face away from activity. Look around your environment and determine what you can do to make it more conducive to your productivity.

Do you know how to do the work that is waiting for you; do you need someone to assist you or show you how to do it; do you need to do some research before you can proced? These are all questions to pursue with yourself. Be honest with yourself.

Do you have the energy physically and mentally to get the job done? Are you eating properly - getting the appropriate nutrition, and are you getting enough sleep? If not correct these imbalances. It is very difficult to produce work if you are not taking proper care of yourself.

9-5-15 Post: Death

Commentary: 

Many of you probably know that Dr. Wayne Dyer died a week ago. So many people world wide are expressing feelings of loss and at the same time celebrating his freedom and the grace of exiting earthly life during sleep. I never had the pleasure of meeting Dr. Dyer; I am greatly appreciative of his work and contributions to humanity.

What happens to the work of an influential teacher when the teacher dies?

I think that in a way the original work becomes fixed in time and place; the original teacher cannot make any further changes to the body of work from an earthly vantage point. 

The work itself continues to change and evolve from the work of the teacher’s students. In this sense the teacher’s legacy will affect eternity. Each teacher will live on in the students that live on. I have no doubt that great teachers continue to influence those who live on and in this sense continue to bring enlightenment to the body of work s/he left behind.

Some teachers are known world wide and some teachers work in obscurity. Every one of them deserves gratitude and love for their effort. There is no way to know the number of people influenced by a teacher. In a way, we are all teachers. One word, one event, one sentence can influence another person for life. That influence can spread from that one person to many others ad infinitum.

If we allow Dr. Dyer’s and other great teacher’s bodies of work to influence us, we will be better teachers for ourselves and others. As we move ourselves toward enlightenment, love, generosity, clear seeing and gentleness, we influence others to do the same. 

8-22-15 Post: What If You Could Fly

Question/comment: I keep hearing “think outside the box.” People keep trying to get me to think differently, to see things from a different point of view. But, I don’t see how that is possible. I wouldn’t be me if I thought like somebody else does. I would be a carbon copy of that person.

Response: What if we could fly? How would you see the world differently? Seriously, just imagine for a minute that you could see the world from fifty or sixty feet off the ground. What would that look like? How would it feel to be so light and have the air flow past your skin as you fly? What would it be like to see people walking down the street below? Can you imagine automobiles on the street, or seeing roof tops? In imagining what it would be like if you could fly, you have already begun to see things differently. 

The more you practice imagining different experiences, the easier it becomes. When you imagined what things would look like from fifty or sixty feet above the ground, did you cease to exist or are you still here reading this post? You still you. When did the exercise, you probably did change a little. It would have caused to be more of who you are. It gave you a stronger sense of self. Who you are has increased just a little. 

Your fears of losing yourself or your sense of self need to be gently, slowly addressed so that you can be more flexible. Your personality will not break or be destroyed if you relax and try to see things from a different perspective. It may be a good idea to seek professional help in overcoming your fears.

 8-15-15 Post: Who’s In Charge?

Question/comment: I feel like there is no time for me because I have so many things that I to do and so many people to spend time with.

Response: Who sets your schedule? Maybe it’s time to look at which activites are most important. Are there somethings you do that don’t really benefit you and you dont even really like doing them? Are these things necessary or is someone depending on you?  If others need you, can anyone else do the activity or at least help you do it? Can you eliminate some of the activities?

Also, can you consolidate socializing engagements? Which of your friends can mix together pleasurably? So, for example, can you have lunch with two or three friends at the same time instead of lunching with each of them separately?

It is very important to have time for rest, creative activities, being alone, and reading; sometimes you need to be able to do nothing. One of the most important things we do in life is to just stop and be. Just be.

Maybe it is time to start asking yourself, “What do I need? What do I want? How do I want to use my time and energy? How can I begin to provide these things for myself? 

The underpinnings for all of this is self love, self respect and self care. What do you believe you deserve? Change often takes courage and the will to succeed. It can be done and with the best interest of all concerned in mind.

8-6-15 Post: Adversity

Question/Response: I find myself in very difficult times financially. I don’t know how I got here and I keep beating myself up over being a failure.

Response: Kicking yourself will not help. This is the time to love yourself the most. While learning from your past actions and choices is important, chastising yourself for so called mistakes is a waste of time. Any negativity you feel toward yourself and your situation will only distract you from making positive changes.  

Look for solutions and helpful people. Let go of what you can and build where you can. Imagine the results you want and how help is going to come to you. Take help where it is offered and love yourself enough to ask for help. Take note of who can help you in what ways and then ask for and or accept that help.

Loving yourself is primary. Valuing and appreciating all of your accomplishments, all that you have given to others and your own uniqueness will make you feel good about yourself. Then you can let your creativity soar. This is the time to plan and begin new projects. Having lost what was makes room for what will be. 

How you define your situation is very important. See this in a positive light and nurture yourself on your new path. Let go of resistance and ask how you may love yourself to your next success.

Say things to yourself like:
“I love you and I will take good care of you.” 
“I will take care of you; I have never failed you yet and I ‘m not going to start now.”

Ask yourself, “What do you need? How can I help you right now?” 

There has never been a successful person who did not have some failures and some adversity along the way. Every successful person has accepted help from others. Don’t let pride get in your way. How you handle your current situation is the test. Will you love yourself through it? Will you accept love and assistance from others?